Sayangkan anak, follow what he or she wants, or tangan- tangankan?? Hmmm..

Okay, the reason for me to come up with this entry sebab, masa2 ni lah (Aidan at 11 months old) dah start nak attention and kalau boleh, nak kita follow what he wants.. Yup, the fact that dia dah sedar that apa2 yang dia nak buat now, dah ada limitations, and ofcoz bila mummy, daddy or anyone stop him from doing what he wants sebab bahaya and stuff, he would cry and sometimes make sounds macam marah.. Well, walaupun baru nampak bunga2 nak suruh kita follow jer, mummy nak kena do something ni.. Persoalan nyer, should i follow him, or this is the time for me to play a 'mom'?? Hmmm..

Bukan apa, for some people, they are still small, and it is not wise for us to let them cry, scream and shout for something yang they have no idea of the consequences, dengan alasan 'he or she is still small'.. Betul?? Yup, but bukan ker 'melentur buluh biar dari rebungnyer??' So, when should this process of melentur should be done kalau bukan sekarang?? Right?? Huishhh, memang serba salah ngan Aidan skang, sebab dia dah start nak be a little bit 'creative', especially when he is in his mood to get to know his new abilities and stuff.. Now, satu lagi soalan keluar.. Kalau kita stop him from doing what he wants, bukan ker kita stop him from learning?? Huh! Kan?? Kan?? Hmm.. Pening! :P

Well, bila dari kecik kita tak larang this and that or put any limitations, i am afraid last2 kita terpaksa follow what they want, sebab dah terbiasa.. And definitely tak nak Aidan get spoiled macam ni.. I am trying so hard to teach Aidan to use this 'negotiation' method from now.. Contoh, if he wants something and i tak kasik, i akan put him right infront of my face, and cakap this and that tak boleh buat with reasons.. Contoh, "Aidan, come.. Mummy nak cakap something.. Aidan, jangan usik dvd player Uncle Joe, nanti rosak camner mummy nak ganti?" and look straight to his face.. Walaupun respond yang i dapat is that dia senyap jer and tenung i, i rasa it's already a good start.. Memang Aidan akan usik balik the dvd player (since babies tak boleh ingat banyak2 lagi kan?), but continuously tegur dia that way, will create a pattern of 'negotiating'.. Like bila dah besar sket, and i larang dia, he would listen to me and he may want to speak his mind, and ofcoz for me to listen plak..

I don't know mummies, okay ker cara ni??

This is my first experience to discipline kan my son, and i am learning too.. Tak nak lah bila dah besar sket and dah pandai this and that, value to respect others tu dah hilang.. And masa tuh, mungkin dah terlambat to stop him.. Hmmmm.. *scratch2..

p/s: Tangan2 kan is actually bagus, but i got to learn that to make the kids ingat and stop from doing what we forbid them to do, we should tangan2kan from bawah lutut, downwards.. Bukan di tapak tangan, lengan or anywhere else on his or her body part..

p/s2: tapi sanggup ker kita nak tangan2 kan anak?? huhuhuhu.. I just boleh angkat tangan, tunjuk jari telunjuk, and say 'NO' jerrrr.. hahaha.. okay lah kan?? :P